We have all experienced that moment when we slip off to sleep or wake from sleep where our mind is in a different state. It is the threshold between consiousness and the subconcious where dreams and reality merge for an instance. This is the best time to ask and receive answers from the spirit world. This section from a Rudolf Steiner lecture on the dead says it so much better than I ever could.
“As I told you, the moments of waking and going to sleep are particularly important for intercourse with those who have died. Through the whole of our life there are no such moments when we do not come into relation with the Dead.
The moment of going to sleep is especially favourable for us to turn to the Dead. Suppose we want to ask the Dead something. We can carry it in our soul, holding it until the moment of going to sleep, for that is the time to bring our questions to the Dead. Other opportunities exist, but this moment is the most favourable. When, for instance, we read to the Dead we certainly draw near to them, but for direct intercourse it is best of all if we put our questions to them at the moment of going to sleep.
On the other hand, the moment of waking is the most favourable for what the Dead have to communicate to us. And again there is no one — did people but know it — who at the moment of waking does not bring with him countless tidings from the Dead. In the unconscious region of the soul we are speaking continually with the Dead. At the moment of going to sleep we put our questions to them, we say to them what, in the depths of the soul, we have to say. At the moment of waking the Dead speak with us, give us the answers. But we must realize that these are only two different points and that in the higher sense, these things that happen after each other are really simultaneous, just as on the physical plane two places are there simultaneously.”
Rudolf Steiner – Lecture
The Dead are with us